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I don't think you mean it that way, but it felt like you wanted me to feel guilty (afraid, responsible)

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  1. 나르시시스트는 두려움·의무·죄책감을 무기로 쓴다

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    • 그들이 두려움, 의무, 죄책감 중 무엇을 이용하는지 먼저 식별하라.
    • 공격적이지 않게 그 의도를 짚어 주고 상대에게 빠져나갈 길을 열어 줘라.
    • 병법의 황금 다리처럼 후퇴할 다리를 놓아 주는 것이 핵심이다.
    • 말 뒤에 숨은 두려움(타인의 시선 등)을 30~40초 만에 찾아낼 수 있다.
    • 그 행동 뒤에 잠시 멈춰 상대를 바라보는 것만으로도 큰 힘을 가진다.

 

If you meet a narcissist who tries to use guilt, fear, and a sense of responsibility against you in the middle of an argument,  

don’t call it out openly, offer them a golden bridge (a way to retreat).

I don’t think you mean it that way, but it felt like you wanted me to feel guilty

 

 

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/LDsStdjhUGI

 

 

This English version was translated by Claude.

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Pleasant Charles — UI/UX researcher at AIT. Keeping notes on design, planning, and slow days here since 2010.

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